Design Your Destiny – Part 3

 Recognize Where Change is Needed

“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.”
- Seneca

Are you honest with yourself about what needs to change in your life?

It’s not always easy to recognize where change is needed. We often don’t realize it because things change slowly and we adapt unknowingly. It begins with something small happening and because we are willing to be flexible, we adjust and continue on. Again, some small incident happens and we adjust and continue on. As time goes by we’ve adjusted so many times, we don’t even notice how far off base we really are and how much we’ve compromised in the process.

Awareness is the first step to recognizing where change is needed. Step back and evaluate where you are and where you want to be. What are your goals and are you moving closer to them or farther away. If you were to go back in time to a year ago, are you where you thought you’d be? Have you achieved your goals? Do you have the kind of relationships you want? Do you wake up every morning and want to get your day started because you’re excited about what the day holds in store for you or………are you just making do. Are you accepting things as they are whether they work or not?

If you were to stand back and look at your life as if it were someone else’s what would you think?

Sometimes the more coping skills you have the more you’re likely to let things go, because you can handle them. You get so good at dealing with things that don’t work that you don’t even remember there’s an easier way.

What are your expectations for your life? Do you expect to have what you want?

When you’re a positive person, and are always able to find the best in people or situations, you may feel it’s negative to notice things that you don’t like or would rather not be a part of. To notice is not to judge, to notice is discernment. To judge is to say it’s right or wrong.

How To Recognize Where Change Is Needed

1. Are you honest with yourself about where you are in your life and whether this is what you really want both personally and professionally?

2. Are you happy now or are you waiting to be happy when……..?

3. Are you making excuses about why things aren’t working out for you?

4. If you knew today was your last day, would you feel complete and fulfilled or wish you had made some changes?

5. If you could change anything, what would that be?

Take time to think about these questions. You and only you have the answers.

If you recognize change is needed, remember, now is the perfect time to begin to change the direction of your life and Design Your Destiny.