Design Your Destiny – Part 4

 A Willingness to Change

“Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.”
- Author Unknown

Are you willing to let go of your old comfortable patterns that don’t work and learn new ways of doing things?

Once you’ve honestly discovered where change is needed, the fun begins. Now it’s time to take action and change what isn’t working and create the life you want.

Before you can move forward, you need to be willing to change. There is a difference between recognizing a need to change and your willingness to do something about it.

Sometimes that means changing the dynamics of a significant relationship or perhaps even ending a relationship. It may require you to change careers even without knowing what’s next, or perhaps make new choices for your health and wellbeing which are not supported by others.

Be careful to stay out of the trap of analyzing what you’ve discovered. That will only keep you stuck. Sometimes an avoidance strategy is wanting to know “why” things happened or “why” you do what you do? “Why” will only keep you stuck. “Why” justifies behaviour that isn’t working.

Focusing on the “why” keeps you focused on the problem and what isn’t working, rather than focusing on how you want to be instead.

If you find yourself saying “I’ll change when……. Or I’ll change if……….I know I should change but……. It means you’re not willing to change.

No one can make you change.

It takes courage to change now. The courage comes at the stage of willingness. Once you are willing, things move easily and quickly to align with your willingness.

At this stage, it isn’t necessary to know “how”. The “how” will come.

A willingness to change comes with a deep desire to live your life differently. It’s also linked with a deep knowing that it can be different. That’s the feeling you want to trust because it will help you to courageously take the steps necessary to make the change and create a new way of life.

Are you willing to change? Questions to contemplate to give you insight:

1. What will happen if I am willing to change?

2. What will happen if I’m not willing to change?

3. What won’t happen if I’m willing to change?

4. What won’t happen if I’m not willing to change?

5. What will you gain by letting go of the old patterns that don’t work?

6. What will you lose by letting go of the old patters that don’t work?

Take time to think about these questions and contemplate your answers. This is an opportunity for you to make sure there is nothing getting in the way of your willingness to change.

If you are willing to change, remember, now is the perfect time to take action to change the direction of your life and Design Your Destiny.